We all want to be successful in homeschooling. There’s more pressure on us Homeschool parents to be successful in our children’s education.
The world puts pressure on us.
What are you teaching? Are you qualified? What about socialization? What about…? What about…? What about…?
We put pressure on ourselves.
What if I can’t teach something? What if they can’t get into college? What if they don’t make friends? What if I mess them up? What if…? What if…? What if…?
Our children put pressure on us.
Why is learning to read so hard? Why are they not good at spelling? Why can’t they remember their multiplication tables? Why…? Why…? Why…?
We look around and see all these other moms and think, gosh, they have it all together, why don’t I?
Or we look around and say, hey, that mama’s house is just as filthy as mine, and don’t lift a finger.
Both of these trains of thoughts are wrong.
Comparison is wrong. No one wins with comparing. No one. We also can’t use other people’s weaknesses as validation for our own.
It does us no good to say, hey, you know what, I’m an inconsistent homeschooler, and leave it at that. Ummmm… no. You acknowledge it, you make peace with it, and then you [wc_highlight color="yellow"]WORK[/wc_highlight] on it.
On to the tools.
There are a gazillion wonderful amazing posts on the tools you need to homeschool. Things you can’t live without, things that make life easier, things that organize you, prepare you, and get you where you want to go.
Before you click away because you just realized that this is not about what’s the best stapler or printer to use (I have that post coming soon - minus the stapler), [wc_highlight color="yellow"]promise me you'll give this a good thorough skim[/wc_highlight]
1. Look at these tools and see which ones you have and give yourself a treat. Maybe a cookie. Have some for me because I can’t eat them anymore.
Better make it brownies, fresh from the oven, with a scoop of vanilla ice cream covered in chocolate sauce and caramel.
2. Go through this list and look closer at the ones you don’t have. Pick one that really just hits you right in the feels and focus on that one. Once you got that, come back and work on another one.
I’m the queen of trying to work on everything all at once. If only I’d just taken one baby step at a time, I probably would be the master of a clean house by now. Maybe even have my own TV show.
Believe me, I understand trying to tackle it all at once. Don't do it, but I won't judge if you do.
What are the tools, you ask?
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Be fully committed to homeschooling. It’s okay to say, let’s try this out for a year, or six months. It’s not okay for during that trial period you on give it half effort. If you’re in, you’re in. Let’s do this.
I realize you have probably had this beat into you, but it’s for a reason. It’s the small and simple things that bring about great things.
You have got to have a good support system. That doesn’t mean you can’t homeschool and have your whole family against you. That does mean you deserve lots of respect and hugs, and perhaps donations. $$$
Go find a great support group, in a homeschool group that you mesh well with, in a co-op that has similar intentions as you, and in several online communities.
I am in several Facebook groups that have made all the difference in my life. They may have one for your local area as well. Do a quick search.
Here are a two you may love:
4. Trusted Resources
Find people that have been there and done that. Find people that not only have been there and done that, but do it in a way similar to you, or in a way that resonates with you.
Don’t close off everyone else, just be selective. If you look at what everyone is doing you’ll change so much that you’ll either run out of money or you’ll have zero consistency and have big education gaps.
Follow the blogs that really give you what you need and turn to them for help. I am a part of iHomeschool Network. The ladies in this network are freaking amazing. I feel so supported, so energized, and am given such fabulous ideas daily.
You have got to have a plan. In the words of every self-help, planning, time management guru “Fail to have a plan and you plan to fail.”
Who has a wooden spoon I can gag on?
Goshdarnit, it’s true though. Why do you think there are so many gazillion planning and scheduling and organizing posts? Because these steps are the ones that can make all the difference.
Yes, make a plan and stick to it, but no, not until the death. You’ll burn yourself out, you’ll burn your homeschool curriculums, and you’ll burn your house down.
Be flexible, let your expectations go, and just chill.
7. Be Realistic
This goes along with flexibility. Perhaps that’s why they’re next to each other. So clever.
Don’t set these impossible expectations for yourself.
No, you probably won’t bake bread and have fresh milk (from your cow/goat) and warm cookies every day for a after homeschool snack. You probably won’t have children creating science experiments that have MIT knocking on your door, and art galleries from all over the world taking down their Picasso paintings to display your daughter’s paintings, and no, your children may not all go on to earn PhD’s at the age of 18.
You may not have this classic school room with maps, portraits, globes, chalkboards, desks, lab equipment, easels, an extra kitchen, a timeline that covers your huge wall that is both educational and classy in appearance. You may not have it all.
But you do.
Know your limitations, your weaknesses, and your strengths. Realize what you're capable of. Being recently diagnosed with Hashimotos and adrenal fatigue I've had to learn this. And don't think I wasn't breaking glass and throwing it in a fit of tantrum along the way (I need tool #8)!
No matter how much you want to teach that Adult Skills Class (Rochelle...), if it's beyond your physical and emotional limitations, just let it go and be okay with that.
This isn't the time to heap on excuses.
The other side to reality is to realize when you aren't pushing yourself hard enough, you aren't doing as much as you can. Evaluate your reality and set reasonable expectations that will help you grow.
A bad attitude is like rotten fruit. It stinks. I just made that up, can you tell?
Or... it’s like raw chicken that’s been left on your counter, put away, but no one cleaned the counter properly and then made PB&J sandwiches right on top of that spot.
Dangerous, deadly, and disgusting.
Kick that rotten or the [wc_fa icon="arrow-circle-o-up" margin_left="" margin_right=""][/wc_fa] "3 D’s of attitude" out of here. Drop a hammer on it. Thor’s hammer.
You have got to be realistic, but you don’t have to be a martyr, nor do you have to be negative. “If only I had lab equipment my Fabio too could be a mad scientist.”
If only I had a better attitude, then I could feel happier and accomplish my goals easier.
Now get to work on that.
Here are two tips:
- Show gratitude.
- Learn to count.
- Get it done.
- Do your best.
- Have a good attitude.
- Be understanding and forgiving, but [wc_highlight color="yellow"]do not to take any lip[/wc_highlight] from yourself, nay-sayers, or your children that are whining and rolling on the floor because you asked them to ________ and they wanted to _________ instead.
Determination will get you everywhere.
With your powers combined…! I am Stick-to-it-iveness!!
This is not the same as determination. I know; I checked.
Consistency in homeschooling can be the hardest bit.
You have to hold yourself accountable.
You have to have loads of self discipline.
You can’t just stop doing math because you’re tired of drilling addition already. Or end your day early because you deserve it.
- Help yourself be consistent.
- Make a plan that works for you.
- Set realistic goals.
- Have reasonable expectations for yourself, have a good attitude, get phenomenal support, use fantastic resources, and take it a little at a time.
- Set it up in chunks and give yourself small rewards for getting it done. A 5 minute breather, a chapter in the book you’re trying to read, or a nice walk around the neighborhood. Something that will relax you, rejuvenate you, and not take you off your plan/schedule.
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Holy smokin' guns...
Is your brain cramping yet? Nah, mine isn't either...
There really isn't one tool better than the other. They all work together, like Captain Planet.
Pick the one that you know in your heart you can work on and buckle down. If you need some tips, some help, some support, I'm right here. I may not have it all together... in fact, I don't. But, I do make some pretty great funny faces, and I know some people who know some people.
If you liked these tools, or perhaps even one of them, would you share this post? You'd make a grown woman (who is still breaking out like a teenager) cry tears of joy.